To adults, Santa may seem like a harmless, jolly old man who fills us with images of the joy and magic that Christmas brings. However, to a child Santa may feel like a stranger who causes fear. From his strange vocabulary, to his red velvet suit, there is nothing really “typical” about Santa. The thought that Santa is always watching to see if we have been naughty or nice can be a daunting one.
Here are a few strategies to help you and your child have a successful Santa experience.
Take it slow
Talk to your child about Santa and your own interactions with Santa as a child and now as an adult. Share your experiences with as much detail as possible. Provide them with a story of how you sat next to Santa or mailed your Christmas list or touched his red velvet suit.
- Make a conscious effort to pass by Santa in the mall. Take some time to watch other children experience Santa.
Build a Social Story
Tell a story that is meaningful for your child that puts Santa in a meaningful context. For help writing a social story, go here. http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/strategies-and-approaches/social-stories-and-comic-strip-conversations/how-to-write-a-social-story.aspx
Talk with your child about Santa in ways that align with your family values. If he is a character for your family use examples they can associate with. “He’s a pretend character like… Batman, Twilight Sparkle, Elsa or a favorite Power Ranger.”
Don’t Force
Don’t force your child. If waving is as far as your child gets to Santa fantastic! Remember these are your child’s memories they are building, help them build positive memories.
- Don’t be disappointed or punish your child for not wanting to sit on Santa’s lap.
- Don’t expect to have your child’s picture taken with Santa. If your child is fearful, putting another expectation on your child may increase anxiety. Allow your child to explore Santa from a distance, standing or sitting next to him. Allow your child to set the pace.
Remember
Christmas is a time of magic, surprise and joy. It is a time to pause and make memories with your children. Help build positive memories by following your family values and your child’s lead.