For most kids Halloween is exciting. Choosing a costume, dressing up to be someone else and receiving candy is fun. However, for kids suffering with Sensory Processing Disorder Halloween can be a nightmare. It’s not that these children don’t want to be a part of the adventure, it’s the sensations the adventure brings that can be unbearable.
For children with tactile defensiveness who already have a very limited repertoire of items their skin can tolerate putting on a costume is like wearing a wool sweater in July. Some children struggle with daily transitions so the idea of approaching new people and houses time after time can be very overwhelming.
Children with poor frustration tolerance may be even pushed farther to their edge when those well intending houses give a toothbrush or an apple. Imagine you pushed yourself to your limit and were told you were going to get a treat and you receive the exact opposite of what you were envisioning. It’s enough to make an adult tantrum.
So what can you do? As a parent of a child of Sensory Processing Disorder know your child’s limits. If the costume is going to push your child over the edge allow them to wear what they want and still participate. If it is the crowds, try going earlier or later in the day. For a child with high anxiety, identify a few friends’ homes where you know they can successfully trick or treat in a familiar environment with people they know. You can also practice the event a few days before hand. Often what makes us most anxious is not knowing how things are going to go. If a child practices the steps, they will be better prepared.
As a person expecting trick-or-treaters, don’t give a toothbrush. It’s like getting oranges in your stocking, especially for children who have sensory issues. Stickers, rings, temporary tattoos, or pencils are items you can offer if you don’t want to encourage candy. Be patient if a child hesitates to talk to you. Remember you are most likely a stranger.
Sensory kids love Halloween as much as anyone. With a little bit of preparation and foresight, we can make sure everyone has a super fun night of costumes and candy. Happy Halloween!